Make no mistake about it: Being a parent is hard work. You’ve created a tiny little person and you’re completely responsible for raising them, feeding them, and taking care of them. It’s a big responsibility and you find yourself full of all the fear (and all the love, like more than you ever thought possible) in the world. You celebrate their milestones as they learn to walk, and talk, and eat food by themselves, and then you’re hit with the realization that they’re mobile, demanding their favorite foods, and throwing snacks on the floor.
But it’s not all butts and runny noses. Otherwise, we’d never do this again and our species would be in big trouble. Lucky for kids, they can also be charming and adorable, reminding us that even when it seems like we’re going to melt down and we can’t do this anymore, our role as parents is one of the most important things we’ll ever do. And it’s so worth it.
We reached out to moms in our community to hear about what makes #MomLife worth it. And their responses might have you reaching for the tissues, so get ready to wipe your own runny nose for a change.
When Kids Know Just What You Need
Sometimes when you’re feeling your worst, your little ones can brighten your day and remind you that you’re the star of their world.
“I was in the front seat of my van trying not to cry over my home insurance/water damage disaster. In the back seat, I heard my four-year-old say to my three-year-old, ‘Emmy, you’re such a good sister. I love you.’ And I couldn’t help but smile.” Chantel G.
“I’ve been on prednisone for 7 months and I’ve gained weight. I put on a dress and a little makeup the other day and my three-year-old exclaimed, ‘Mama! You beautiful! You princess?’ Day made.” Mal E.
“I’ll be completely losing my mind annoyed with everything and before I know it I have little arms around me and a little voice telling me she loves me and asking for a kiss.” Rogue B.
“My kids and I were killing time at the mall before parent teacher conferences and I don’t remember why, but I said ‘I know I’m a horrible mom’ and my nine-year-old said, ‘Mommy, you are the best mommy! You are so nice and you always do stuff for us and you discipline us and that’s really important so we can grow up to be good people.’ She made me cry and my heart sang. As often as I feel like I’m doing everything wrong, my sweet, amazing, wiser-than-her-age little girl reminds me that it’s not how I see myself or how others see me, it’s how my kids see me. It’s moments like this that make me realize I’m doing OK.” Jaclyn M.
When Kids Appreciate The Funny Things
Knowing you’ve imparted your sense of humor onto the next generation is its own reward. Sometimes children can be so funny and there’s no denying they inherited your impeccable wit (or your talent for terrible knock knock jokes).
“Mine can sing the entire ‘Bad Lip Reading of Star Wars” song. It’s HYSTERICAL. I made a funny human!” Renee L.
“It was Christmas Eve and my husband was working late, so I decided it was finally time for my Sesame Street-obsessed son to try one of my favorite movies: The Christmas Toy. He snuggled in my lap right up until the funniest bit, where he sat up, pointed at the screen, and laughed like he was getting tickled.” Jennifer L.
When Kids Show You How Much They Can Love
Kids truly show us the meaning of unconditional love and those little moments are what keep you going when you feel like giving up.
“We were at the grocery store as a family, and my daughter stayed with me while my son went with my husband to a different aisle. We met up in the middle of an aisle and the kids ran to each other from opposite ends, called each other’s name, and hugged like they hadn’t seen one another for years. That’s the kind of thing that makes it so worth it for me.” Brittany M.
“For me, it’s seeing how loving and selfless she is. Her cousin is eight months younger but she was upset she wasn’t finding any Easter eggs, so my daughter put down her own basket and helped her cousin find them instead. She gives me hope. I love her giving spirit.” Misty W.
“The little ‘I wuv you’ I get, the kisses, the hugs, the super excited ‘Mama!’ when they want to show me something.” Andrea H.
“When I just let his utter joy in life be contagious.” Kat B.
“When they stop mid-play to come give me kisses and hugs.” Auna K.
When Kids Remind You How Much They Need You
There’s something bittersweet about your child growing up and becoming more independent, because you start to feel like they don’t need you anymore. But then you realize that they still need you, and they’ll always need you, even if it’s in a different way than when they were babies.
“My daughter refuses to go to bed until I hold her in my arms and sing her the ‘Abbey Song.’ It’s her own little lullaby. She hums along, and it’s the most precious minute of my day.” Bethany N.
“Anytime they are hurt they come running to me (or their dad) for help and snuggles. They trust us to make it all better, to reassure them that while it hurts now it won’t hurt forever.” Erin O.
“I feel like he needs me the most when HE tries to take care of ME. I was up late working the other night and had taken a break from it long enough to feed him and take him to a movie. When we got home, I sent him to take a shower and go to bed. I got back to work, and he said, ‘You’re obviously tired, go to bed and finish that tomorrow.’” Renee L.
“My daughter was playing at the park and came running to me saying she hurt her leg. All she needed was a kiss and a hug and she was off to play again. As she grows, she needs me less and less, but moments like that remind me that she’ll always need her mama in some capacity, even if it’s not what it was.” Misty W.
What Do YOU Love About #MomLife?
We want to hear your stories about what makes parenting in the trenches worth it. (Did you need those tissues?)