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Working Parent Tips

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For more and more working parents, work-life balance is becoming even more desirable. You don’t want meetings to take precedence over soccer games and you don’t want to pause playtime to answer an email. In the same accord, you don’t want your work to suffer either.

It is possible to not only work and parent, but also succeed at both! We spoke to three of our very own working parents to see  how they manage maintaining success in their career and still enjoy quality time with their children.

 

You don’t have to be at every event...just the big ones

You are a parent. Your kids are the most important thing to you. So even as a working parent, you want to be there for every practice and event. Don’t hold yourself to that standard because not even stay-at-home parents do. To lessen the load, don’t be afraid to be picky about what you attend.

If you follow this advice, you won’t have to constantly worry about leaving work on time, and you will still be there for the occasions that count.

 

Multitask your preparations

Since mornings are no doubt chaotic and daytime is out of the question since you are working, after work is your best bet for getting your kids bags all assembled and their lunches packed. As a working parent, this may be your time to focus on the kids, but don’t forget to prepare yourself as well so you aren’t scrambling at work the next day. 

“Pack your own lunch the night before, too! I can get focused on making sure the kids needs are taken care of that I neglect myself. When you’re packing kids lunches, don’t forget yours as well,” Hilary T. says.

 

When you have time for outings, make them as stress-free as possible

No matter where you work, it’s bound to be stressful at points. That’s why when you have time with your kids, you don’t want that to carry on during these moments. When you find time outside of work to enjoy the zoo with your kids or take them shopping, try to set aside just a few minutes beforehand to pack a bag.

“Pre-planning is important. Have food and things ready for kids anywhere you are going to go,” Arin S. says.

This way, the time you get with your kids is fun and relaxed versus stressed and chaotic.

 

Embrace the little moments

As a working parent, time with your little ones is precious. Even when with them, however, it’s normal to get stressed about work. To truly balance parenthood and career, you need to take active steps to be fully in the moment for both.

“I don’t use my phone while I’m playing with them unless it’s to take a cute picture. We also have dinner together every night,” Jaime R. says. 

And as Jaime went on to explain, sometimes these little moments are worth a change in schedule...even if it means going in to work a little later than you had hoped.

How do you balance family life and being a working parent? Let us know in the comments!

Tackling The Toddler Bed Transition

Tackling The Toddler Bed Transition

Transitions are challenging, regardless of age or situation. They can be even more difficult when the one making the transition is too young to understand the need for the change. You are a parent of a toddler now, which means your life is filled with changes and growth, and sometimes it feels overwhelming.

One of the changes you and your little one will soon face is the transition from a crib to a toddler bed. We know there are questions that come with the change, and we want to tackle a few of them.

Please remember to always consult your child’s pediatrician before transitioning them to a toddler bed.

 

When is the right time to transition a toddler?

 

Unlike many other toddler transitions, there isn’t an exact “right” time to make the toddler bed change— but there are several safety factors that are important to consider. The general rule is to make the transition before your child is able to climb out of the crib because that can lead to injuries. Typically, toddlers are able to climb out of the crib when they reach 35-37 inches, and most parents choose to make the transition between ages 2-3.

Some parents postpone the transition until ages 3-4 to prevent middle-of-the-night waking and wandering. If you choose to wait, here are a few tips to keep your child safe:

Lower the mattress to the floor.This prevents your child from climbing and falling.

Turn the crib around. Be sure the side with the higher bars faces outward. This makes it more difficult for children to escape.

Baby-proof the surrounding areas. One of the most common issues parents face during this time is wandering. When children are able to climb out of the crib, they will. Make sure their room and the surrounding rooms are safe, just in case.

 

How can we make the toddler bed transition go smoothly?

 

Unfortunately, there is no way to guarantee an easy toddler bed transition, but there are a few strategies you can try!

Make it a big deal. Kids are always in a rush to grow up, aren’t they? Use that to your advantage. Play up the fact that this is a step toward your child becoming a “big kid,” and they will be more motivated to make it work.

Emphasize independence. As kids get older, they crave independence and responsibility. Explain the importance of changing beds by stressing the fact that you trust them to be more independent. It’s also a good idea to include your child as you set up a sleep schedule and create bedtime rules. Work together to figure out a time to go to bed. Ask your child which activity they want to do before falling asleep (reading, talking, etc.). When children feel like they are part of the decision-making, they are more likely to cooperate for a positive result.

Get excited! Kids often feed off enthusiasm—if you’re excited, they will be excited! Take your child to the store to pick out new sheets and blankets for his/her new big kid bed.

With the help of these tips and tricks, tackling the toddler bed transition can be fun and simple!

Sleep Tips for New Parents

 Sleep Tips for Parents

The first few months of a baby’s life are filled with wonder, excitement . . . and exhaustion.

We know how tiring it is to do the late-night feedings, followed by the middle-of-the-night diaper changes, and finished with the early morning wake-up calls that now consist of cries. And every day is a repeat of the day before.

We promise that one day, you’ll look back on these days and miss them more than you can handle.

But until then, we’ve got some sleep tips for new parents to make those sleepless days and nights a little easier!

 

Take Shifts.

It takes a village, right? If you’re in a position to use teamwork to your advantage, do it! Create a sleep schedule. It could be one night on, one night off or you could split the night in half. Figure out what works best for the two of you, and take on this adventure as a team.

 

When Baby Sleeps, So Do You.

Don’t underestimate the importance of catching some extra Z’s whenever the opportunity presents itself. Your nights may be difficult, but the days won’t feel as bad when you and baby share nap times.

 

If Someone Offers Help, TAKE IT.

Now is not the time to be shy or to feel like you have something to prove. If friends or family offer to watch your new baby for a little while, say YES. You need all the rest you can get, whenever you can get it. If you’re especially tired, don’t be afraid to ask for help, either. Your friends and family know this is an exhausting time for you. They want to help.

 

Go to Bed as Early as Possible.

Most newborns are up every few hours, so it’s a good idea to go to bed as early as you can. Even if you’re not sleeping, you’re still relaxing. Your body is still taking a break, which is important to your health.

 

Snack on Superfoods.

You are going to be sleep-deprived for the first few months, there is no way around that. But one thing you can do is feed your body foods that keep your energy high. Some of these foods include brown rice, honey, bananas, apples, oranges, and spinach. Ask your doctor for more suggestions.

 

The first few months are going to be a challenge, but our sleep tips for new parents should help make this journey a little easier and less exhausting!
Tags: baby, dads, moms, sleep

Overtired Versus Undertired Babies: What’s the Difference?

Overtired vs. Undertired

As a parent, you may think that there is nothing worse than your child being so tired they will not sleep. Just because your child is resisting going to sleep does not necessarily mean they’re “overtired.” A fussy baby could also be “undertired.”

It may come as a surprise, but overtired and undertired babies are actually very hard to differentiate. While they can display these poor sleep patterns similarly, it’s important to know which one your baby really is so you can properly remedy the issue. To help you better understand, we break down the similarities and differences of overtired vs. undertired.

 

Overtired vs. Undertired Similarities

Obviously, both of these issues revolve around sleep, and both overtiredness and undertiredness can have lasting effects on your child. The younger the child, the more sensitive their circadian rhythm. If this rhythm is even slightly put off balance, their growth and learning can suffer.

As both overtiredness and undertiredness throw off a sleep schedule, they often display similarly. Both an overtired baby and an undertired baby will cry, a lot, even when they’re not hungry. Also, whether your child is undertired or overtired, they will wake very early in the morning and rarely go back to sleep. This not only shortens what would be a healthy amount of sleep, it also negatively impacts their, and your, entire schedule for the day. Right before bedtime and naptime is when overtired and undertired babies demonstrate another similarity. Both overtired and undertired babies will resist settling before bedtime, so if you don’t pay attention to how they are resisting, you may not know if they need more or less sleep.

 

Overtired vs. Undertired Differences

Unfortunately, when trying to avoid a child not sleeping enough (overtired), it is easy to overcompensate, creating an undertired baby. To avoid babies getting overtired, many parents put their children to bed TOO early. So these sleep issues, while different, affect each other.

As we stated, both overtired and undertired babies resist settling before bedtime. Luckily for you, how they resist is different, so that may help you determine which they are. An overtired child will be extremely energized right before bed. An undertired child, however, will resist by crying and fighting.

Behaviors during naptime are also where overtired and undertired babies begin to show key differences. When a child is overtired, they will take extremely long naps, and it’s very difficult to wake them up from these daytime slumbers. When a child is undertired, however, they will be very restless during naptime, and they will wake up frequently.

Lastly, other than waking early in the morning, undertired children don’t typically show many symptoms during the daytime. When a child is overtired, they express daytime irritability as well as lack of concentration during the day.

 

Do you have experience with an overtired or undertired baby? Tell us about it in the comments!

Tags: baby, parenting, sleep

Sleep and Your Baby’s Immune System

Sleep and Baby's Immune System

By: Jenni June, Certified Child and Family Sleep Consultant, CLC and Mom of 4!

There are few things worse than seeing your baby or child suffer through the symptoms of a cold or flu. As parents we do everything we can to keep them as healthy and safe as possible. One powerful preventative measure we parents can take is to teach and provide quality sleep, a necessity for maintaining the health of our child’s immune system. Here’s why:

Our bodies have a natural circadian rhythm that is dictated by the earth’s rotation and the rising and setting of the sun. When we are sleeping within these natural biological rhythms, we get optimum, quality sleep. Sleep cycles are whole and healthy and most importantly, we get what’s called slow-wave sleep. This component of a sleep cycle helps clear waste, toxins, and stress that build up on the brain each day. It has incredible protective and restorative benefits. But if we are not sleeping within our natural biological rhythms, sleep is fragmented multiple times during the night and we prevent this slow-wave sleep from taking place.

Another important key to a healthy immune system is our microbiome, the healthy bacteria living in our bodies, which is affected by our circadian rhythms as well. If our babies are sleeping poorly, the essential bacteria in their gut and colon have trouble digesting fiber and other vitamins and nutrients from their food. These same gut microbes also help manufacture serotonin, which is a building block to melatonin production. What this means is that all in all, poor gut health negatively impacts sleep.

One way to improve your baby’s sleep health is to work to consolidate sleep with as few wakings and fragmentation as possible throughout the night (once the child is old enough to consolidate calories during the day, meaning they don’t need to be fed every few hours). This process may begin as early as between four and six months, depending on your child’s health and development, as well as your pediatrician’s recommendations.

Napping well during the day and going to bed early at night can help with this. The timing of sleep really impacts how healthy the sleep cycles will be. Poor sleep-timing results in incomplete sleep cycles and fragmentation, no matter how many hours of sleep your child gets.

Lastly, it is always important to consider your child’s chemical exposure. While we can’t control it completely, we can make a significant impact in one area that really counts: the mattress they sleep on. Make sure their mattress is free of dangerous chemicals that are known to cause significant health problems, such as fire retardants, phthalates and formaldehyde. A waterproof mattress with a removable machine washable cover helps prevent unhealthy bacteria growth, as a mattress can be a breeding ground for all kinds of things with the accumulation of spit up, vomit, sweat and leaky diapers! My go-to recommendation is the Lullaby Earth Breathable Breeze Crib Mattress. It’s an amazing, non-toxic and hygienic option that fits the bill nicely, and without breaking the bank. Free from all of those dangerous chemicals found in standard crib mattresses, your baby will be able to safely sleep and truly restore as you work to improve and restore their immune system.

Sleep well and stay well!

About Jenni June:


jenni june Jennifer Metter, founder of Jenni June™ LLC, is a Certified Child and Family Sleep Consultant, specializing in pediatric and adult sleep hygiene; A Certified Lactation Counselor, Host, Nationalspeaker, and Mom of 4!

With thousands of successful sleep cases under her belt since 2011, she is a valuable resource for everyday and celebrity parents all over the country, including Guiliana and Bill Rancic for the Style Network! And, she is the sleep training expert on The Doctors TV show! She is a practitioner member of the National Sleep Foundation and collaborative health care provider as a certified sleep coach for infants, children and adults for the Breathe Institute, and the go-to sleep trainer for LA’s top pediatricians!

Jenni is also a popular national speaker and guest on CBS, FOX, NBC news and the host of series, “Baby Care with Jenni June” and the resident sleep expert for the BabyLeague and FamiLeague Networks.

If you were to ask Jenni why she has joyfully dedicated her entire life to building up and equipping families (including her own, who are now all grown!), she will tell you, “Because the hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world.” She is gifted in encouraging new parents to raise the standard of their significance. 

Tags: baby, parenting, sleep

Meet the Wisp Air Breathable Crib Mattress

Meet the Wisp Air Breathable Crib Mattress

We’re pleased to announce our newest arrival to the Lullaby Earth lineup, the Wisp Air Breathable Crib Mattress. It combines a flat, firm crib mattress (featuring our patented waterproofing and lightweight design) with a washable breathable pad to allow airflow between your baby and their mattress. This means a cooler, more comfortable sleep without overheating, plus easy cleanup. It’s another way we provide Breathability Done Right.

 

Why Breathable?

Many parents want a breathable mattress for safety reasons, because they’re worried about baby rolling onto their tummy during sleep. However, the most important safety consideration for your crib mattress should be firm, flat support. A breathable surface doesn’t mean much if you have a soft mattress or bedding in the crib, both of which pose a suffocation risk. According to the Consumer Product Safety Commission, babies should be placed to sleep on their backs, on a firm, flat crib mattress, with no soft bedding or toys in the crib. So if breathability isn’t crucial to your baby’s safety, why get a breathable mattress at all? While a breathable surface may offer some safety benefits if baby lays face-down, the primary benefits of a breathable mattress are comfort and a cooler sleep. When air can flow freely underneath your baby, they’re less likely to overheat and wake up sweaty and warm. Read more about the benefits of Breathability Done Right.

 

Why the Wisp Air?

We developed the Wisp Air at a happier price for families after feedback that our Breathable 2-Stage Mattress, the Breeze, was a little out of some people’s budgets. The Wisp Air offers the same benefits of breathability and easy cleanup at a more affordable price. Meet the Wisp Air Breathable Crib MattressBy combining a breathable pad with a waterproof crib mattress, you can remove the mess and easily keep the mattress clean. The Wisp Air Pad is machine washable, so you get all the benefits of breathability without the drawbacks of a hard-to-clean breathable mattress. Breathability Done Right means a safer breathable sleep for baby and peace of mind for parents. The Wisp Air Breathable Crib Mattress Pad is also available separately so you can have a backup pad or convert your existing Lullaby Earth Crib Mattress into a breathable mattress.

 

What’s The Difference Between The Wisp Air and Breeze?

The main difference between our two breathable crib mattresses is that the Breeze has a 2-Stage firmness design, flipping from firm for infants to a cushion firm toddler side. The Wisp Air has the same firmness on both sides, suitable for infants and toddlers alike! So you’ll never have to worry about having the right side up in your baby’s crib, because both sides offer unbeatable firm support ideal for your growing baby. Another minor difference is color and material. The Wisp Air pad is white and is 100% polyester, made with a breathable mesh fabric. The Breeze is available in five colors and has a waterproof backing for double protection. Don’t worry about cleanup though -- as long as you’re using the Wisp Air as intended with a waterproof crib mattress, you can still enjoy easy cleanup and bedding changes. Put the pad in the wash and wipe the mattress clean with a damp cloth.

 

Get Some Air Time

We hope you’re as excited about the Wisp Air Breathable Crib Mattress as we are! Let us know your thoughts as we continue to develop new products to meet your needs for a safer nursery.

Do I Need a Sheet with the Breeze Breathable Crib Mattress?

Do I  need a sheet with the Breeze Breathable Crib Mattress?

Our Breeze Breathable 2-Stage Crib Mattress is all about #BreathabilityDoneRight - but do you still get the benefits of breathability when you use a crib sheet?

Breathability Done Right

First, let’s quickly recap how the Breeze does breathability right. Rather than a completely breathable mattress, the Breeze combines a breathable pad over our firm, lightweight, and waterproof mattress made without harmful chemicals. This way, when baby makes a mess in the crib, from sweating, drooling, or an inevitable diaper blowout, your whole mattress isn’t compromised and you can just machine wash the pad. The mattress itself is usable without the pad, so if you have a late night bedding change, you don’t have to miss a beat. You can put baby back to sleep with a new sheet over the mattress alone.

Does the Breeze Need a Sheet?

The short answer is: not necessarily, but we recommend one.

The Breeze does not strictly require a sheet, but many parents who use the Breeze prefer to use one anyway. A sheet provides a soft, cozy surface for baby. Plus, you may have crib sheets to match your nursery decor! However, it’s important to use a crib sheet with a loose weave fabric, such as muslin or natural cotton, with the Breeze Breathable Crib Mattress. If the fabric is too tightly woven, air can’t pass through as easily. To take full advantage of the Breeze’s airflow, choose a looser weave fabric.

Benefits of Breathability

The number one safety feature of your little one’s crib mattress is firm, flat support. To reduce suffocation risk, baby’s mattress should be firm and there should be no soft blankets, pillows, bedding, or toys in the crib. These are the recommendations from child health and safety organizations including the Consumer Product Safety Commission.

Once you’re set with a firm, flat crib mattress, it’s time to talk about the benefits of a breathable crib mattress! The big benefit is maximized airflow, which helps baby sleep cool and comfortably without overheating. Of course, a breathable surface also gives parents peace of mind in case baby happens to roll over onto their tummy from being placed to sleep on their back.

As we mentioned above, an added benefit of a system like the Breeze is that you can remove and wash the breathable layer when it gets messy - something you simply can’t do with a one-piece breathable mattress.

Any Questions?

Let us know your other questions about Lullaby Earth products to be included in a future post!

Lullaby Playlist: Music To Help Baby Sleep

Lullaby Playlist: Music To Help Baby Sleep

Music can get us excited and motivated, remind us of fond memories, help calm us down when we’re stressed, or even help us wind down for sleep. Babies are no different, and they often respond well to calming music and lullabies. Sometimes they prefer that mom or dad sing them a song, but many babies do well with a CD or playlist of sleepytime tunes to help them get ready for bedtime.

     

The Best Type of Music for Babies

The truth is, there’s actually no one type of music that’s best for babies. It’s all down to their personal taste! Who can forget the funny moment in the sitcom Friends when baby Emma only calms down to Sir Mix-A-Lot? While we probably wouldn’t start there, it’s possible your little one has a favorite song that’s outside the realm of ordinary lullaby tunes - and that’s okay!


Instrumental Music - Classical and instrumental music is great for babies because it doesn’t have any words and can be played quietly for a relaxing atmosphere in the nursery. Some babies don’t like CDs or playlists because of the jump between styles of music from one song to another, but that’s not as much of an issue with instrumental music since many of the styles and instruments are consistent through multiple songs.

Misty W. says, “Our daughter loves anything Bach.”

Tiffany M. says, “When she was a baby, we did white noise. In the toddler years we transitioned to a CD of Native American flute lullabies. She won’t sleep without it.”

Popular Music - It sounds a little out of the ordinary, but many babies and toddlers respond well to the popular music that their parents like! Try putting on a Beatles CD or music with soft vocals (although it’s possible they like punk rock too - no judging here).

Shayna E. says, “My kid was sort of weird. Avenged Sevenfold knocked her out as a babe, and now she loves P!nk and Imagine Dragons.”

Kathryn M. says, “‘Hey Jude’ was my go-to for my oldest. The younger two really like more alternative rock like Linkin Park.”

Holly S. says, “Some of our favorites are ‘Sweet Baby James’ by James Taylor and ‘Come Away With Me’ by Norah Jones.”

Classic Nursery Rhymes - The old classics like Itsy Bitsy Spider, Twinkle Twinkle Little Star, etc. can be real favorites for your baby, especially when sung by you! Baby doesn’t mind if you’re a little out of tune, but there are recordings available for the vocally shy.

Briary R. says, “My kids never liked CDs because they woke up when the songs changed. I sing to them at every nap and bedtime.”

Sarah S. says, “I remember the first time my daughter was really crying, and I thought, ‘I should sing a lullaby’ but I panicked because I couldn’t think of any and it was 2:00am and I hadn’t slept in three days. So I sang the ABCs over and over. That song still helps her calm down when the going gets rough.”

Lullaby Versions of Popular Songs - These are super fun for babies and parents! Parents hear their favorite songs but baby only hears the soft tones of a lullaby melody perfect for bedtime. Check out Rockabye Baby to see if your favorite song has been turned into a lullaby! They’re also available on Spotify.

Lexie M. says, “Rockabye Baby is awesome!”

Renee C. says, “I have the Rockabye Baby CDs because the normal repetitive kids’ music annoys me.”

Millissa B. says, “I like Rockabye Baby. There’s a Justin Timberlake collection that we love!”

White Noise - While not specifically music, a white noise machine can help babies fall asleep and stay asleep longer, since the normal bumps in the night are drowned out by a constant background hum. Many adults sleep with a fan or white noise machine, and baby can benefit too!

Briary R. says, “Our kids have an air purifier and ceiling fan in their room for white noise.”
     

Tips for a Musical Bedtime

If you’re putting baby down with music, try to make it part of the bedtime routine but not something that stays on after you leave the room. If the song ends, they may wake up and need you to come back and restart the music. But if you play (or sing) a song or two as part of bedtime and then turn on a white noise machine to leave the room that stays on overnight, they may have an easier time falling asleep and staying asleep until they wake naturally!

If your baby doesn’t respond (i.e., get sleepy and calm) with your chosen tunes, mix things up and try some different songs. Follow baby’s cues to find out what works best for them. You may notice them nodding off in the car seat to the Moana soundtrack or getting sleepy while you sing to yourself making dinner. Pay attention to these clues so you can recreate the calming effect at bedtime!

     

Share Your Favorite Tunes

We’d love your suggestions for bedtime lullabies and songs your kiddos love! Share in the comments below. Sweet dreams!
Tags: baby, sleep

How Firm Should A Baby Crib Mattress Be?

how firm should a crib mattress be

One of the most important considerations parents should have about their baby’s mattress is the firmness level. While it’s tempting to want baby to have a cushion-soft surface that seems cozy to us as adults, it can be dangerous if a crib mattress is soft, floppy, or saggy.

Why You Don’t Want a Soft Mattress

For starters, babies’ bones are still developing and their bodies need much more support than ours do as adults. Adults may find comfort and support from a wide range of materials and firmness levels, but for babies it’s important to remember that firmer is always better. If it feels cozy to you, it’s probably too soft for your baby.

Babies, especially newborns and young infants, lack mobility and can’t get around very well. So they have a harder time lifting themselves up and repositioning like an adult would. If they stay on their back during sleep that’s one thing, but once they start rolling onto their tummies this can present a pretty serious risk. A softer mattress that is flexible at the edges can also increase the chance that arms or legs can get stuck between the mattress and the crib.

To reduce the risk of these potential hazards, it’s best to choose a firm crib mattress with firm edges. Safety recommendations also caution parents to place babies to sleep on their backs and to keep all soft materials (bedding, toys, etc.) out of the crib environment.

How Firm Should A Crib Mattress Be?

Consumer Reports recommends that you “Press on the mattress in the center and at the edges. It should snap back readily and should not conform to the shape of your hand.” So when you’re testing crib mattress firmness, feel free to put pressure on the mattress to make sure it resists the impression of your hand. It should feel a bit firmer than you’d think is comfortable. But trust us - babies need the firmer surface and sleep just fine!

The Ideal Firmness for a Crib Mattress

At Lullaby Earth, your baby’s safety is our priority. Our crib mattresses are made with firm, flat support, as recommended by the Consumer Product Safety Commission (CPSC) and also feature reinforced edges for a snug fit in the crib.

Our 2-stage or “dual firmness” crib mattresses have a firm side and a cushion firm side. When baby is around one year old you can switch to the cushion firm side for a little more cushion during the toddler years!

We do recommend you confirm with your pediatrician before flipping the mattress, since some babies may need a bit more time on the firmer infant side.

The DL On Sleep Training Methods

baby sleep training

By Jenni June, Certified Child and Family Sleep Consultant, CLC and mom of 4!

If you are considering teaching your baby or child healthy new sleep habits, so that they can independently fall asleep and connect from one sleep cycle to the next throughout the night, and without your intervention or engagement, then it’s likely you’re feeling a bit overwhelmed or confused by the different sleep training "methods" available to you, or even what they mean, in terms of marketing their approaches. 

Allow me to unpack the language for you with a few important facts that will help you to enter into this process with your best foot forward. That way, you may better set your expectations and discern whether or not your child, and the rest of the family, is ready to move forward into the process of change as well.

First, all methods -- every single one ever invented -- involve tears (CIO). Yes, all of them. The only thing that varies between all of the sleep-training approaches out there is how much the parent wants to be a part of the crying process, not that there is no crying involved. That’s where certain sleep training methods are marketed as "gentle sleep" approaches, or even, "no cry" sleep methods. It’s not that there’s no crying involved -- far from it! In fact, with many kiddos there are often more cumulative or intense tears with some of the more integrative approaches than parents are prepared for, simply because there is more active interruption to the child's learning process from parents as they try to help them learn how to get from one sleep cycle to the next on their own.

Furthermore, there is no way to change up a child’s routines, and basically take them out of their familiar comfort zones, without them at least telling mom and dad, temporarily, that they think their new sleep rules suck. Change, even good change, is always accompanied by a couple of days of temporary struggle as we get used to being outside of our predictable routines. But, once we, or rather our babies, have had a few days of a consistent new routine under our belts, they tend to relax again and find comfort with the new changes as they become more familiar with them each day.

It’s important to keep in mind that this is a normal and healthy kind of stress or struggle, as babies and children experience changes like this all of the time. A child learning how to master a new gross motor development skill, like walking or going to daycare or preschool for the first time, is not any different.

Secondly, it’s helpful to realize that all methods are safe and effective when properly performed and matched to your unique child and family! We tend to demonize certain methods as being ineffective, or causing over-the-top crying, when the truth of the matter is that 99% of the time, said method wasn’t being performed correctly in the first place.

Here are the two main reasons why many behavioral sleep training methods fail:

1. The child was not set up for success with The 4 pillars of sleep hygiene ™ (i.e. environment, ability to detect true sleep cues, effective pre-sleep routines, timing of sleep, etc.). This is my trademarked foundation to all sleep shaping and training. Without this important and natural sleep science foundation, no sleep training method will work. And if it does, it will be very short-lived when real-life circumstances come your way -- such as travel and illness.

2. Parents or caregivers were unwilling, or unable (due to their own anxiety or sleep deprivation) to provide the necessary consistency, patience, and commitment children need from their securely attached caregivers to support them through the important changes being made to their sleep health, habits, and safety.

In conclusion, I'll summarize all of this by likening it to breastfeeding. If the latch doesn’t go well right out of the gate (if breastfeeding is being performed incorrectly), then it’s going to be a miserable, tear-filled experience for both mom and baby, right? But that doesn’t mean we should demonize breastfeeding. It’s just that it was not performed properly. Applying this same logic to sleep training methods helps parents better understand why consistency, attention to detail, and patience with their chosen method, is absolutely essential!

Also, it’s equally important to properly match the right sleep-training method to accommodate the child’s age, temperament, and possible past-failed sleep training attempts in their background, as well as a parent’s realistic ability to be consistent with the performance of the chosen method.

 

About Jenni June:


jenni june Jennifer Metter, founder of Jenni June™ LLC, is a Certified Child and Family Sleep Consultant, specializing in pediatric and adult sleep hygiene; A Certified Lactation Counselor, Host, Nationalspeaker, and Mom of 4!

With thousands of successful sleep cases under her belt since 2011, she is a valuable resource for everyday and celebrity parents all over the country, including Guiliana and Bill Rancic for the Style Network! And, she is the sleep training expert on The Doctors TV show! She is a practitioner member of the National Sleep Foundation and collaborative health care provider as a certified sleep coach for infants, children and adults for the Breathe Institute, and the go-to sleep trainer for LA’s top pediatricians!

Jenni is also a popular national speaker and guest on CBS, FOX, NBC news and the host of series, “Baby Care with Jenni June” and the resident sleep expert for the BabyLeague and FamiLeague Networks.

If you were to ask Jenni why she has joyfully dedicated her entire life to building up and equipping families (including her own, who are now all grown!), she will tell you, “Because the hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world.” She is gifted in encouraging new parents to raise the standard of their significance.

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